Comments on: Getting The Frat Guys To Care About Sexual Violence

By: Dad

Dad — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 23:47:21 +0000

Derek,
Wow, you make me proud. Keep this up and I may have to start listening to you. Dad

By: Pash

Pash — Sat, 17 Apr 2010 16:02:17 +0000

Thoughtful and well-written piece, Derek. Important work.

By: Derek Dujardin

Derek Dujardin — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 17:36:26 +0000

I agree. There’s a culture of male sexual entitlement, and that if you’re not a man getting laid in college, that you’re somehow not esteemed. I think that pressure for a man to prove himself and make something happen can lead to coercion and rape. Moreover, some fraternities, have kicked out men who have stood up against their practices. Social proof, the idea that something isn’t wrong if everyone is doing it, is a powerful, destructive force in closed groups.

By: Bonnie Green

Bonnie Green — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 07:10:08 +0000

This blog is brilliant, Derek. You should share it in our “debriefing” call with ASU. You continue to impress me with your heart, wisdom and ability to articulate tough subject matter.

The world is truly a better place because of you and your work.

By: Tina Marie

Tina Marie — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 00:55:35 +0000

Derek,

Wow what an experience to watch unfold. I appreciate your courage. Your formula sounds fair enough and seems as though it would work in many forums. My initial thoughts are that frats, and their counterpart, sororities are established in today’s culture to signify separation; an American youth caste system that lays groundwork for power struggles between, not only the sexes but various groups on campus and even further on into life. I am not a fan of groups that focus on separation and find those with the need to prove themselves in some way will find ways to harm other humans at their own gain. I do not mean to generalize, this is an outside in view as I did not choose to participate in such organizations given my experiences with hazing, egotistic leadership and self righteous behaviors exhibited by my college peers. Maybe an analysis of choices we humans make or feel free to make that lead to separating entitlements is needed. If we first see each other as equal and connected, it is much harder, in my belief to harm another. – Blessings my friend, T

By: thanks Dujardan!

thanks Dujardan! — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 23:11:45 +0000

yuppers….

By: Derek Dujardin

Derek Dujardin — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 17:12:02 +0000

Thank you so much. We are doing what we can. And thank for sharing your story and your support.

By: joannawillis

joannawillis — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 02:51:01 +0000

This is a great post. I am new to your site and I appreciate the work you are doing. Its needed and worth the hard work and resistance you face. I was raped on my college campus 10 years ago by a classmate in a frat. We were not on a date or romanticly involved. We were not partying and drugs/drinking was not involved. Thankfully I received counseling, I have a supportive family and relationship with Jesus Christ. These are the things that got me through my experience. Men need to be educated, challenged and held accountable. I edcuate other women and share my story often. We have to keep working hard to end sexual voilence. God bless you and this cause.