The MENding Monologues Press Release
Saturday, May 14 at 7 PM
Sedona Creative Life Center
Sedona’s MENding Monologues stages a “theatrepeutic” experience for audiences.
Inspired by The Vagina Monologues, The MENding Monologues returns to the Sedona Creative Life Center on Saturday, May 14 at 7 PM for their only scheduled performance of the year. Tickets are $12 advance or $15 the night of the show, with partial proceeds to benefit Amanda Coughlin in her fight against liver cancer.
Written and performed by local residents Derek Dujardin, Bonnie Green and Dev Galloway, The MENding Monologues is a smart mix of heart-centered monologues, comic sketches and hard-hitting slam poetry that takes the audience on an emotional rollercoaster ride through relationship issues and gender wounds to arrive at self love.
“Everyone was completely smitten by the performances,” said Tracy Hartnett, Coordinator for Domestic Violence Treatment in Alberta Canada. “People came back to see it a second night because they were so moved.”
The MENding Monologues began in Sedona five years ago and has since toured colleges throughout the United States and Canada to rave reviews. In October 2010, Derek Dujardin received the “40 Under 40″ award in New York City as part of the 40th Anniversary of the Feminist Press for creating the show. Moreover, the script of the MENding Monologues has inspired third-party productions throughout the United States, as far away as London, England and Pert, Australia. In April, the MENding Monologues was performed in American Sign Language by deaf college students in Vancouver, BC.
“The traveling version of show and script has evolved and will continue to evolve,” said Mr. Dujardin.
“We are very proud of the caliber of the work and how it touches the hearts and minds of our audiences. No one in Sedona has seen this production before,” said Bonnie Green, the MENding’s business manager and co-producer.
Phoenix slam poet Ed Mabrey will join the MENding Saturday night. Ed is the winner of 2008-2009 Grand Slam World Poetry Championship and founder of the Black Pearls of Poetry.
“Ed is amazing,” said Dev Galloway, performer. “He brings a whole new dimension to our show with a powerful voice, prose and presence.” Local actor Wally Reule will also guest perform.
“I love that we’re making a difference in the world and in people’s lives,” said Dujardin, “both emotionally and financially when we can.”
Partial proceeds from the show will benefit Amanda Couglin and her family. Amanda is 20 years old and was recently diagnosed with stage-four liver cancer.
“There are many forms of ‘mending’ and healing. And the Coughlin Family needs our support,” said Green. “We feel honored to help this brave young woman.”
Tickets can be purchased at Crystal Magic in Sedona (located at 2788 W 89A) or The Sedona Creative Life Center at 333 Schnebly Hill Road up until 4 PM the day of the show for $12, or for $15 at the door. This show is likely to sell out, so please purchase your tickets early.
Derek Dujardin • As the founder of The MENding Monologues, Derek’s passion is to inspire healing through vulnerability, authenticity and humor to create “theaterpeutic” experiences for the audience and the cast. He has studied improv acting with Alan Arkin and sketch comedy with Second City. By day, he works as a freelance advertising copywriter and brand strategist. For his work with The MENding, Derek was honored by The Feminist Press in New York City, 2010. You can contact Derek at www.TheMENding.org or director@theMENding.org.
Bonnie Green • Bonnie studied both Theater and Broadcast Journalism at Indiana University. The MENding provided the perfect outlet for her passion and gifts as both an actress and writer. Bonnie has done Community Theater in Chicago, Indiana, Ohio and Sedona. Theater credits include Vera in Mame, Tzeitel in Fiddler on the Roof, Kathy in Vanities, Eve in Applause, Barbara in Social Security, Faye in Chapter Two, The Dragon in Talking With, and the Vagina Monologues. She has studied film acting with Sagan Lewis and Improv for Actors with Alan Arkin. By day, she works as the National Account Manager for Gaia Herbs.
Dev Galloway • Dev began performing in Alaska after his tour of duty with the U.S. Air Force. Dev ventured “outside” to study acting in LA with Janet Alhanti, ACT in San Francisco, and The Neighborhood Playhouse (Meisner) in New York City. He lives in Sedona, AZ, where he teaches acting and works for Enchantment Resort.
Guest Poet Ed Mabrey • Ed was the Individual World Poetry Slam Champion from Feb 2007-Dec 2008 and is the only African American to win the title. He is the CEO of Black Pearl Poetry, one of the most successful poetry shows in the country. His book of poetry, Waiting For The Mail Train is available from Wordsmith Press. He lives in Phoenix, AZ and his CDs and book are available at www.BlackPearlPoetry.net, firstname.lastname@example.org or 614-623-0687.
Talk about a tough room. Bonnie Green and I did a private, mini version of the MENding Monologues for Academy-Award Winning Actor Alan Arkin and his wife Suzanne. To add a little pressure to the evening, one of other people in the room was Bonnie’s high school drama teacher, Bob Johnson.
Bonnie did “Dr. Doris Vaginski” and “Path To Worthiness”, while I performed “Tantra.”
Alan gave us both great notes on our pieces on what to improve. After all, Bonnie I have been self directed for the past year and half, so getting a little coaching can’t hurt. So, what was the verdict? Mr. Arkin said he liked the pieces and told us this was important and brave work.
I’ll take that.
Check it out. I’m blushing and blown away at the same time. I’m certainly not the savior of all womenkind as the article makes me out to be, but I’m proud to do what I can.]]>
Check this link: http://www.ted.com/talks/tony_porter_a_call_to_men.html]]>
This interview happend Nov. 16, 2010 in Medicine Hat, Canada. Bonnie Green, our business manager and producer and Derek Dujardin, executive director of the MENding Monologues.
Uma Thurman with Derek Dujardin at The Feminist Press Gala, Oct. 19, 2010
Last Monday night, I received an award from The Feminist Press for my work with the MENidng Monologues. Along with one other man and 38 women, we were selected from more than 400 nominations to represent the future of feminism of the Fortieth Anniversary of The Feminist Press. The ceremony took place at the Roosevelt Hotel in New York City, with Elaine May and Uma Thurman in attendance.
I don’t know who originally nominated me for this award, but I want to say thank you, whomever you are. It’s been a rough year for me personally and professionally, and I was beginning to lose my enthusiasm for this project, wondering if I just should stay on my side of the gender line. Receiving this award is an excellent validation of the my writing and it has reinvigorated my efforts
One of the highlights for me was spending about 10 minutes talking about the MENding Monologues and The MENding Dialogues with Uma Thurman and filmmaker Nira Mira. Uma loved the idea of the project. She was so warm, passionate and encouraging. She gave me this little bit of advice that I would like to pass on to other writers, artists and activisits. She said: “Let rejection fuel your resolve.”
Yep. Good advice. Not exactly sure how to do that, but it’s lot better than letting rejection beat you down.
While there was no time given to the 40 honorees for acceptance speeches, if I had been given my 30 seconds, I probably would have said something like this:
“Thank you Bonnie Green for your loving support, organizational skills and spirited encouragement for keeping this vision alive when the disappointments seemed to pile up. Thank you to The San Diego MENding Monologues crew (Kim Pappas, Carla Nell, Christopher Burger, Brendan Cavalier, Rod Rodegez, and many others for continuing to create their unique flavor of this project). Thank you Brad Luky, Tom Puetz and Tyrus Watson for your support for helping bring this show to life. Thank you Eve Ensler and to the Mark Matusack of V-Day’s V-Men for supporting us. And, finally, a big, big thank you to all the men (and women) of the MENding who have the courage to break the silence and tell their stories, naked, vulnerable and on-stage, healing for all to see.
Check out the Gala and what it was all about…
At the age of 13, create a male rite of passage and invite all boys to go through it. For thousands of years, men have taught boys how to become healthy men. We have lost these rites of passage and now we have generations of men who are still boys, stunted, shutdown and numbing out with porn, videogames, drugs and addictions of every sort.
I staffed a Boys to Men Weekend recently where we took 16 boys from the ages of 13 to 17 years old and lead
them into the world of men. Not the world of men of who they have been role modeling for the first decade of their lives, but the world of healthy, strong, trustworthy men. The REAL world of men.
The biographies of the boys were heart-wrenching. Half of them lived in foster homes. The other half lived with mom and had no father figures in their life. When they weren’t absent, their real dads were alcoholic and abusive. A lot struggled with ADHD, and more than 1/3 said have tried to kill themselves and most had suicidal thoughts. A few were normal boys, with normal boys trouble. But only a few. Couple came with their fathers.
I was hard NOT to write them off the majority. And a few times I caught myself doing exactly that. These guys had really GOOD reasons to quit on their lives. And a few of us would have blame them if they did. They had the ultimate trump card and an excuse that could justify any actions and behaviors for the rest of their lives. They were victims. And now, they were each becoming perpetrators, some faster than others. In year or two, jail was were they were headed. They were all running out of second chances.
So, what did we do? I can’t tell you EXACTLY what we did that weekend because it’s secret, as rites of passage for men should be. But I can tell you about the Hero’s Journey. We took them through multiple processes that spoke about the healthy male energies and archetypes, including the Lover, Warrior, Magician and King. We told them about their shadows. The Lover’s shadow is the Addict. The Warrior’s shadow is the Bully, the Magicians shadow is the Trickster/Manipulator, and the King’s shadow is the Tyrant. We talked about the masks we all wear to hide the scarred little boy inside.
But most importantly, we dealt with what it means to be a man. Men keep their commitments, especially to themselves and their communities. Men don’t hurt themselves or others. Men speak their truth from their integrity. We modeled this for all the boys, to show them they can trust men. And trust themselves. Make good choices. For many, it was the first time in their lives they have met men like this. We cried in front of them and showed them there is no shame in our emotions. Open vulnerable and raw, we showed up.
The climax of the weekend is an ordeal. However, from this ordeal, each of the boys get to become a king, the Decider of their lives. We take them through their wounds and help them find the gift that is next to it. We help them to be empowered and change their interpretations of their victim story and confront the obstacles and beliefs that are holding them back from moving forward. In short, we showed them their gold, and showed them the the shadow that is covering it.
They got it. Every single one of these, rough, hurt, angry, medicated, abused, apathetic boys walked out of that weekend a new person. And we did in less than 48 hours. I have no idea how we did it. I think this is in our DNA. Men are born to do this. Boys are born to received it.
Will it stick? We have a group of eight boys who joined us, called Journey Men. The J-Men on our weekend had biographies that were just as horrific as these boys who walked in on Friday night. But, they showed up, as men. They showed up in ways that taught me that I still have work to do. These Boys, were also Those boys, only a few months earlier or a year before. These J-Men, all had Victim stories that would give them an excuse that to live in their Shadow selves. But they showed up as Warriors, Lovers, and Kings. So, yes, for some, it will stick.
I love the MENding. I love the work that I do, but this work, this Boys to Men’s work, would make a world of difference if our world were to embrace it.
Another man left that weekend equally transformed. I got a refresher course in my B.S. and my shadow parts and I, too, have made a commitment to be a better man, more passionate, more loving, more grateful.
I can’t wait to do this work again.]]>